Are you prepared?

 A recent holiday to North Wales was amazing; the hills, valleys and greenery were truly awe inspiring, even if some of the inclines were steep and the bends amazingly sharp!  Who knew that a car and van could pass on such narrow roads or that there were so many people driving Motorhomes visiting Wales - just like we were.  The trip was so well planned, we had our Lateral Flow Tests so we would know if the dreaded virus was upon us; we had packed walking boots and wet weather gear, sun dresses and Factor 50 sun cream; we’d shopped and bought some ready meals to take the hassle out of evening meals; our accommodation was spacious enough, with 2 super comfy beds, and to cap it all the Olympics were on TV so there was always something worth watching each evening, oh and honours were even when it came to Scrabble!  So why was it that, despite all that planning, we were still unprepared?

You see, if we’d had a crystal ball, we’d have known that following a tumble into an extensive bramble patch, one of us would need some first aid.  We’d also have worked on knowing where we were exactly on the map, instead of ‘near the bend in the river where the steam train goes through a tunnel.’  All was well in the end, for which we are grateful, but it highlighted 2 things – (1) You are never as prepared as you think you are and (2) Something can go wrong in the blink of an eye.

One of the roles of Hope Trust, along with other organisations such as CAB, Compass, Emmaus, and Walton Parish Nursing, to name but a few, is to be there to help people prepare for the future, as well as being available when the unexpected happens and time is required to resolve a next step.  From understanding the complexity of an issue to knowing how to begin to find a solution is one of the many methods of support Hope Trust can offer.  It’s amazing how coming along to a Technology Café here at Maidstone Hall will not just help you resolve that issue you have with your laptop, tablet, or smart phone, but in chatting with other people you learn from their lived experience.  Bus routes, pharmacy deliveries, the best ready meals, the community that comes along to Hope Trust is wise, capable and willing to share their local knowledge, so why not pop in and join us, who knows what nugget you might pick up!

As Autumn begins to grip us in its thrall, our thoughts are also turning to our next Bereavement Support Group.  We offer a chance to find out what the 4-week course covers on Saturday 2nd October 2021, from 10.30am - 12noon here at Maidstone Hall.  The course itself will start w/c Monday 11th October at a time the participants will agree upon and finish w/c Monday 1st November.  The grief journey is tough for everyone, each person experiences grief and all its facets differently, but one thing we’ve learnt over the 9 years this course has been running – the journey is made easier when shared with people who understand the nature of loss.  To find out more please get in touch, we are - Paul & Sheila Taylor (Pastoral Workers) – T: 01394 272592, M: 07845 202 112 E: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or visit our website it will be good to speak with you.

Roses are amazing flowers - or is it just us that think that?!  Our ‘Silver Wedding Anniversary’ rose has survived our tender care for over 17 years – we are not enthusiastic gardeners, so we think it says more about the ability of the rose to survive than our ability to tend it!  This year, the rose bush has grown, developed new shoots upon which now sit many amazing, soon to bloom, flower buds.  As we walked past it the other day, we were struck by how plentiful the flowers were, and so we took a picture of one.  It was only when we looked closer at the picture, we noticed the small black creature lurking at the bottom of the petals.  We have no idea whether this creature was harmless, perhaps just taking a well-earned rest, or whether it would turn into one of those pests that the famous gardener Monty Don talks about, which will eventually kill the whole plant!  Time will tell.

The discussion we had about the rose bush gave us time to reflect on quite a few simple home truths.  Firstly, we realise that, despite all that has happened since the Coronavirus struck, our lives have, thankfully, carried on, but that is not true for everyone we know.  With our own recent losses, as well as those that have affected us in our working life with Hope Trust, some significant life stories have come to an end.  Managing the grief that such a truth brings us is quite tough, but we know from delivering our Bereavement Support Group, that loss, however profound, can be navigated well.  Bringing this hope to others who have recently experienced their own sense of loss is why we are already booking in the dates for our Autumn Bereavement Support Group, with the introduction taking place on Saturday 2nd October, at 10.30am.

Secondly, at first glance the flower looked perfect.  Predominantly white with just a tinge of pink at the edges, it looks amazing now, but we know that in a few days or so the petals will drop, the beauty fade.  This reminded us that we are not getting any younger!  Things we could do easily just a few years ago now seem like unwelcome tasks – travelling down the M1 on a busy Monday reminded us of that.  Perhaps that’s why, here at Hope Trust, we are always looking for new and improved ways to help older people maintain the kind of life they want to live for as long as possible.

The last observation was around the presence of that little black creature nestling in the petals.  Whether it’s harmless, or deadly, we reflected on how it seems there is always something lurking, waiting in the wings to try and (potentially) derail our plans.  It’s why organisations such as Hope Trust exist, we are here to help older people when the sun shines and when it doesn’t, when life is going well and when it isn’t, when plans come to fruition and when they don’t.

So, if we can help please call us - Paul & Sheila Taylor (Pastoral Workers) - on 01394 272592, mobile: 07845 202 112 email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or visit our website it will be good to meet you.

What is your inner critic saying to you?

Do you have one?  We know we both have one, that voice you hear when it whispers, ‘You’re too old to wear that’ or ‘You’ll never be able to achieve that’ or even ‘Why would anyone like you?’  This insidious voice is known as our ‘inner critic.’ The website shares this description about our inner critic – ‘Our inner critic can be a cruel and deeply damaging force. Its strength and impact determines our overall mental wellbeing. The destructive voice in our heads is never satisfied and can soil and spoil anything we may achieve, no matter how impressive.  It magnifies the negative, spreading discontent and worse in our lives. Fortunately, there are numerous effective strategies for weakening its power.

Working for Hope Trust we get to see people at the best and worst times of their lives – when all is well and when it is most definitely not.  One recurring observation as to how much Hope Trust, and other local organisations can achieve, centres around what people believe about themselves.  Confident people, willing to try new things can thrive when opportunity knocks on their door.  Less confident people thrive less well if they are more reluctant to have a go.  People with very low confidence and self esteem can appear stuck, unable, or even unwilling, to have a go, take a chance – whatever the right phrase is.  Reading about this ‘inner critic’ made us wonder whether this might be the reason for those differences?  Yet that last phrase ‘Fortunately, there are numerous effective strategies for weakening its power’ gives us hope.  The first step is to establish whether, or not, you recognise this whole concept in the first place!  If you do, then you can begin to deal with it by not letting it define you.  This inner critic is always negative, so suppose it was a friend, would it be the sort of friend you’d like to hang out with?  If the answer is no, then perhaps the journey of starting to ignore it can begin.

Life throws many challenges at us; from growing up, school, education, our first job, relationships right through to retirement and older age.  The great news for older people in Felixstowe and the surrounding villages is that you have Hope Trust to call on, along with many other organisations, charities, church groups, as well as friends and good neighbours.  Perhaps we can help you find a next step, or even the first step in a new chapter of your life, but you may need to tell your inner critic to ‘shut up,’ you may need to be brave and be willing to see for yourself what we, and others, have to offer.  Our promise to you?  We are here, we are open, the kettle is always just about to be switched on, you will be made welcome, we will listen and who knows, perhaps instead of a grumpy, negative inner critic voice instead you will hear a positive voice that talks of hope, opportunity, fun and friendship – it’s up to you.

We are Paul & Sheila Taylor (Pastoral Workers) and we can be reached on 01394 272592, mobile: 07845 202 112 email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or visit our website and if we can help, we will.