All Change Becomes Routine With Time

 Do you like change?  Two of us work in the office at Hope Trust and one person likes change - embraces it even - the other hates it and wants to resist it at all costs!  What we both know to be true is that change happens, always has, always will.  It’s a topic we’ve covered several times over the years we’ve written about the work of Hope Trust and yet, this whole topic is not easy, because if it was, we’d all know exactly how to get through changes that sometimes we know must take place as well as changes we really wish could be avoided at all costs.

Take driving for instance – we are both in our early 60’s and so we are starting to ask ourselves whether, or not, we will move to driving an electric car.  Sure, we could park our car on a driveway and hook it into a charging point without trailing cables over the pavement or, as we heard from one person, out over their flat balcony and down 2 floors to their car, but will we?  Where will our confidence come from, on a long journey to see family, that we will get to a charging point just when we need it and not be stuck in a queue on the M25 as the battery slowly discharges?

Take technology as another example – just how long will we be willing to create yet another account, come up with yet another password (that some young hacker could probably break in seconds) or even attempt to read the extremely long terms & conditions we must agree to before we can move on?  And that’s before we get to the question of accepting or otherwise ‘Cookies’ on each website - repeatedly!

Before this descends into a Grumpy tirade, it’s good to remind ourselves of a few known realities:

  • Be resilient, when we have no power over change, ask yourself ‘What can I do about this?’ Having a modicum of self-control always makes you feel better!
  • When things change, be kind to yourself, seek support if you need help.
  • Watch what you think – life is rarely black and white, remember change you’ve navigated in the past and be encouraged that if you got through those changes, you will probably manage what’s on the horizon as well, with or without support.
  • Remember what’s important to you – life is too short to waste time and energy on things that perhaps don’t matter or will change anyway - whatever you say or do.

Here at Hope Trust the charity is about to embark on the next exciting phase of its young charitable life.  The birthing, baby days are behind us, the toddler phase has been navigated well, now we are in the next growth spurt, this is both fantastic and scary all at once, but we will heed our own advice and, as people of faith, pray a bit too!  We’ll share more next month, but until then we are - Paul & Sheila Taylor and we are Pastoral Workers for Hope Trust – you can reach us on T: 01394 272592, M: 07845 202 112 E: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or you can visit our website www.hopetrust.org.uk however you choose to do it, it will be good to speak with you, we are here to help.

At a recent Wednesday morning Tea & Chat the conversation centred for a short time on stories that Parents and Grandparents hadn’t been willing to talk about openly, but once shared, were inspiring, amazing, and worthy of being recorded somewhere, somehow. Stories of their struggles during the war, either as fighters or those left at home to manage, acts of great courage in a time when certain topics and subjects weren’t openly discussed, acknowledged or even legal.  Is there a family story you wish had been shared, recorded even, so that others could hear and learn from it?  What about you, do you have a story that needs to be told? 

Anyone over the age of 60 has lived through tumultuous times of change, you only need to visit a local museum to see items that were part of our childhood now form the ‘History’ section!  We have lived through the time of Moon landings, England winning the World Cup, miniskirts, the first mobile phone, personal computers, ready meals (not just fish & chips!), creation of Health & Safety, debit cards, the internet and even cars that park themselves!  When we share that, in the mid 1970’s, you changed a computer programme with a long length of tape and then had to load another tape to take it back to the first programme – and yes, there were only 2 programmes – it seems impossible to believe, unless you were there, of course!  It’s good that museums are keeping some of these memories alive through exhibits, as behind each object lies a story, just as within each person lies a tale - a tale of how we got from where we started, to where we’ve ended up.  Tales that are full of lessons, learnt and unlearnt; those good and not so good choices that have been made; once in a lifetime experience’s when every minute has been enjoyed, or slightly sadder tales of roads not taken, relationship issues not resolved.  Is there anyone in your life right now, parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, cousin, or friend who has a story that’s worth holding onto, then perhaps today would be a good day to begin to make notes, start a recording, because if you think it intriguing, inspiring, then you can bet your bottom dollar others will too.

It's often at one of our events that we get to hear people’s stories.  The need to keep the memory alive of someone that’s been lost, is strong and the perfect place to share those stories and memories is our 4-week Bereavement Support Group which starts w/c Monday 11th October.  Our Wednesday or Thursday Tea & Chat is another safe place.  If you want help with technology (to record that amazing life story perhaps?) then the Tuesday Tech Café is the place for you, details of times and venues are on our website or you can get in touch, we are - Paul & Sheila Taylor and we are Pastoral Workers for Hope Trust – you can reach us on T: 01394 272592, M: 07845 202 112 E: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or you can visit our website www.hopetrust.org.uk however you choose to do it, it will be good to speak with you.

Are you prepared?

 A recent holiday to North Wales was amazing; the hills, valleys and greenery were truly awe inspiring, even if some of the inclines were steep and the bends amazingly sharp!  Who knew that a car and van could pass on such narrow roads or that there were so many people driving Motorhomes visiting Wales - just like we were.  The trip was so well planned, we had our Lateral Flow Tests so we would know if the dreaded virus was upon us; we had packed walking boots and wet weather gear, sun dresses and Factor 50 sun cream; we’d shopped and bought some ready meals to take the hassle out of evening meals; our accommodation was spacious enough, with 2 super comfy beds, and to cap it all the Olympics were on TV so there was always something worth watching each evening, oh and honours were even when it came to Scrabble!  So why was it that, despite all that planning, we were still unprepared?

You see, if we’d had a crystal ball, we’d have known that following a tumble into an extensive bramble patch, one of us would need some first aid.  We’d also have worked on knowing where we were exactly on the map, instead of ‘near the bend in the river where the steam train goes through a tunnel.’  All was well in the end, for which we are grateful, but it highlighted 2 things – (1) You are never as prepared as you think you are and (2) Something can go wrong in the blink of an eye.

One of the roles of Hope Trust, along with other organisations such as CAB, Compass, Emmaus, and Walton Parish Nursing, to name but a few, is to be there to help people prepare for the future, as well as being available when the unexpected happens and time is required to resolve a next step.  From understanding the complexity of an issue to knowing how to begin to find a solution is one of the many methods of support Hope Trust can offer.  It’s amazing how coming along to a Technology Café here at Maidstone Hall will not just help you resolve that issue you have with your laptop, tablet, or smart phone, but in chatting with other people you learn from their lived experience.  Bus routes, pharmacy deliveries, the best ready meals, the community that comes along to Hope Trust is wise, capable and willing to share their local knowledge, so why not pop in and join us, who knows what nugget you might pick up!

As Autumn begins to grip us in its thrall, our thoughts are also turning to our next Bereavement Support Group.  We offer a chance to find out what the 4-week course covers on Saturday 2nd October 2021, from 10.30am - 12noon here at Maidstone Hall.  The course itself will start w/c Monday 11th October at a time the participants will agree upon and finish w/c Monday 1st November.  The grief journey is tough for everyone, each person experiences grief and all its facets differently, but one thing we’ve learnt over the 9 years this course has been running – the journey is made easier when shared with people who understand the nature of loss.  To find out more please get in touch, we are - Paul & Sheila Taylor (Pastoral Workers) – T: 01394 272592, M: 07845 202 112 E: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or visit our website www.hopetrust.org.uk it will be good to speak with you.